“The Matrix”

This morning, my life partner and I were discussing what the characteristics of the target client base for my company which is On-Core Ventures is.  The company originated with a goal to assist the Twelve million reported Encore Entrepreneurs (EE’s) who are looking to create a business that is “On-Core.”

When starting my search for these EE’s, I began in our church since the demographics is pretty bifurcated comprised of about 50% boomers and 50% young families with children.  The boomers listened politely to my initial effort to discuss life after the shift.  During my presentation, there was much head bobbing, which might mean they agree with what you are saying, or might instead indicate they are simply agreeable to anything that is said.

A few years ago my son bought me a copy of the DVD (you remember DVD’s right?) for the Matrix. At the time, he was in his teens at the time and, I realize now, I was still in the Matrix. In talking with some of the boomers over the last few months – I think they too are still in the Matrix.  By unexpected contrast, when talking with the young adults of our congregation, they are overall much less likely to be in the Matrix.  They, like myself and many other, have experienced “the shift”, they have woken up to consciousness.

I think that today, many millennials – my son and his lovely wife among them – have rejected the matrix.  Interestingly, many of baby boomers initially rejected the Matrix as well, but as the sixties gave way to the seventies, with the ending of the Vietnam war , the women’s movement stalled, and the leaders of the sixties were killed, it was just easier to take the Blue pill and pretend that everything was as it should be.  Life became a “Cabaret” kind of lunacy where the girls are beautiful, the BMW’s are beautiful, the VCR’s are beautiful, the Walkmen are beautiful. Today, the Plasma 3-D TV’s are beautiful, the iPods are beautiful, the iPhones are beautiful, the iPads’ are beautiful. Facebook is beautiful.

But increasingly, we begin to ask “Are they?” Are these gadgets, devices, social structures, and rules we have designed for ourselves serving our true needs? Are we even aware of what those needs are at this point? Millennials are now redefining the idea of “being” and everything that goes along with it. As they wake up, many boomers will follow suit. There is however, a fissure in the human community at this point, on one side are those who are awake, or will be and on the other, those that steadfastly cling to the status quo, to Facebook, to the Matrix. What they fail to realize is that at some point soon, the very structure of that Matrix will begin to disintegrate as so many lights move off its grid.

So what is an On-Core Venture and who creates one?  It is a venture created by someone who is off the matrix. They are ready to embrace the shift from a life led asleep to an awakened state of being. They can be twenty, fifty or seventy.  They are creating natural, socially responsible enterprises.  They are living in balance.

We must each now ask ourselves “How awake am I? “ and “In what areas of my life am I still asleep?” In asking myself these questions, I turned to the Energy Leadership Index (ELI) Assessment.

According to iPEC (International Professional Excellence in Coaching) “the ELI assessment and the debrief of the results is like holding a mirror up to your perceptions, attitude, behaviors and overall leadership capabilities.”

Through this process, I finally understood how I was reacting to life. It became clear to me that I was, in fact, not acting but instead reacting to situations in my life. A long time ago in a self-recovery program for “victims” of being raised in a dysfunctional family (and what family is not dysfunctional on some level?), I encountered the statement “I am an actor not a reactor.”  At the time, I struggled with that statement but recently have been able to integrate its truth.– I am now an actor – I choose how I am going to act.  The ELI assessment helped me see how I was “re-acting” and gave me the tools to change how I “show up” or act in triggering situations. This knowledge has been invaluable to me in leading an awakened life.

To find our more about how to take the ELI, please visit On-Core Ventures.

What is On Core?

As shared in this blog, a few years ago I “shifted”.  In hindsight, the realization of this shift is perfectly clear. But what does it really mean when “the shift” occurs?  Must we inevitably move on to some greater, yet undefined, higher purpose? How do we a shed the baggage we have spent a lifetime creating? Is this an automatic process or do we have choices along the way?

As always – the answer is – It depends.

There are several ways of handling “the shift” that I have encountered, which can be broken down into three main categories:

  • Create a New Venture
  • Find a Creative Outlet
  • Alter your existing reality

The first option, creating my OnCore Venture is what I have done.  The second, finding a creative outlet, is what I initially tried to do, by bringing a new way of looking at life to round out what I perceived was missing. The third alternative, something I did not know enough to attempt,  is to integrate new awareness into your current world, at home and work, by changing the way you are showing up.

Regardless of the path you choose, the first step entails assessing where you are in the “shifting process.”  Everyone between the ages of 44 to 60 will shift post mid-life at least once.  Whether it is the loss of a career due to downsizing, the emptying of the nest when kids graduate and start their own lives, or the persistent voice within that whispers of the desire to change – we all shift.  How you approach  that shift, how it shows up in your life, affecting your health, relationships, and well-being, is up you.

As I completed my training program from iPEC, I took the Energy Leadership Assessment Index. The results brought to light how stress is showing up for me, and through the debrief process; I began to understand what triggers stress in my life. In reviewing the results of others, and considering my own experience, it is clear that just knowing how we are triggered allows for a change in our response, effectively removing the power that stress has over us.

This knowledge changes everything.  Given this information,  ten years ago, I would have been empowered to create a different interaction pattern in my work environment, not just for me, but for the hundreds of people that either reported to me or that I influenced in some way.  Living OnCore might have been the work  I was doing at the time – done in a completely different way. Similarly, five years ago, when I tried to commercialize my love of photography, the inner work that I have since done,  could have changed the way that I decided, or decided not, to go  to market with my work. That shift in leadership and confidence might have changed everything.

In retrospect, living OnCore might have been two pursuits that would have required less change and effort on my part and still have been OnCore because I’d be working from the angle of becoming true to who I really am.  Now that I have done that – I approach everything differently.

So, what about you?  What is living OnCore for you?  Do you have passion left in you for what you do, but simply need to change  how you approach doing it?  Do you have a strong desire to write a book, make art, or create and launch a socially responsible company? Do you struggle with your life partner now that the nest is empty and need to change that interaction?

The answers lie within.

The Energy Leadership Assessment will help find these answers by bringing your individual stress triggers to the surface through a short questionnaire along with an in-depth debriefing session.

The overall Energy Leadership process helps identify and evolve your unique leadership style, allowing you to harness the power to influence others in meaningful ways, bringing out their innate talents and productivity. You will identify at which of the seven levels of awareness you typically operate and learn to recognize when you tend to descend to lower levels in reaction to outside stressors. Once recognized you can then move past these distractions and begin the journey towards achieving your full potential.

To get you started on the path to finding your answers, I’m sharing an introductory offer of $99 for the assessment through the end of May. I will provide the debrief, normally priced at up to $400, at no charge as a way to help you understand the path in front of you to live a life that is on-core for you. If this process helps you discover your next on-core venture, we can then assist you in making that new vision a lasting reality.

I Am

This past Tuesday completed three weeks of intense effort around the completion of the iPEC training program for Energy Leadership.  It has been a time of growth, reflection, and a lot of work.

Working with my coach this week – yes coaches have coaches too- we processed a lot of this growth and I identified the feeling of “growing” too much, too fast and that I “needed a break”.  I also realized that recently I’ve been using technology non-stop when not interacting with people.  Strangely, for me anyway, the interaction with people was the part I enjoyed, while the technology thing, “not so much”.

I was left desiring an analogue world. Enviously, I thought of my son’s vinyl record collection, longing to hear music generated by a physically explainable piece of technology that you can actually see at work.

I wanted to read a book, not on my Kindle, or iPad, not an audiobook but a real book.  I had a flashback to the original Star Trek series in which Jim Kirk is being defended by the last lawyer in the Federation who was transported with his books, and he waxed on about how cool they were.  When I saw the episode as a kid,  I thought “what a load of crap”. Now however, I wanted a book – and absolutely nothing on “growth.”

My coach suggested that I actually go to a book store (most novel of ideas!) and I thought how quaint, shop in a store, what an adventure this will be. I stopped into the “real” world equivalent of Fox Books from “You’ve Got Mail” and mused that what  goes around, often comes back around. The big box guys are dying, while the little guys that are left might be the only ones able to compete with on-line book sellers and  e-books.  I went in to buy Vince Flynn’s retro piece on Mitch Rapp – I wanted low energy with lots of action to get out of my funk.

The universe, God, Spirit, Gaia, etc – intervened. Wayne Dwyer has a new book, “Wishes Fulfilled”.  Of all my spiritual and life teachers , Wayne simply resonates with me.  Wayne has been known to drop the F bomb to his spiritual audiences. I can relate to Wayne.  Don’t get me wrong, Deepak Chopra, Echardt Tolle, Ram Das, Don Miguel Luis are all wonderful – but I seem to just relate to Wayne.

So I picked up the book, merely to take a peak mind you, and somehow, it followed me home.  Three days later, I am half done with Wayne’s book.  I did read the first two pages of Flynn’s book, and plan to finish it this weekend because that is what I said I would do. However right now, I am enjoying Wayne’s book.

To summarize Wayne’s new book – “I AM”. I tend to absorb material from Wayne over time, first reading excepts, playing with them. Then going back and reading the whole thing, then listening to it on audio, then referring back when I, inevitably, forget.  I have not yet begun to scratch the surface of this new material, but I started to meditate with the intention of getting in touch with the wisdom of my ancestors. Incidentally, thanks to some recent genealogy research into cousins  I never knew about, I have a good feel for the wisdom of my for-bearers.  I know that my great grandmother ran a business and raised three very independent daughters,  one of whom photo-documented the family’s history in the early 1900’s.  The images depict strong women who knew who they were and lived it, not over-shadowed by their three successful brothers.  My grandmother’s sister, Julie Connors, was murdered in July 1912 in “the crime of the century” that played out in the NY Times for days when the manhunt for the killer went national.  All of this wisdom became available in my meditation this morning; the growth and the knowledge that all of that and more is available to me to use however I want because we all are “I AM”.

Time is an illusion. We have access to the field of intelligence of the totality of all time, if we only learn to tap it.  We are all one and we are all God.  The female version of Wayne; in that she is both spiritual and human, Marianne Williamson is famous for saying “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

So this weekend, as I read the Flynn novel, I will be a bit detached from the emotion of it, yet more in touch with what the story is triggering in me.  I am sure there is a lesson in that book as well because there are no mistakes and my selection of that book came to my intuition out of a feeling of not being enough or doing too much.

I guess what I said last week is true – once you know – you can’t not know.  And I know that I am powerful beyond belief as is everyone else that chooses to be.